One effective way to structure communication and ensure you can persuade is to use four stages: These four steps allow you to bring the other person through certain steps to arrive at a shared solution or answer. This allows you both to be on the same side. The alternative is to impose an answer from… Continue reading The structure of communication to aid a shared objective
Category: Self Improvement
Influence and shared objectives-lessons from John Kiely and Jim Gavin
A key factor in the building of influence and being able to persuade others, to lead, is to have shared objectives. This is the team ethic. Allowing other people to be part of a bigger dream is immensely powerful. You will always hear successful sports people speaking about how being part of the team and… Continue reading Influence and shared objectives-lessons from John Kiely and Jim Gavin
How to build trust
In order to build trust, you must first earn it. Trust comes from Avoid self-orientation and focusing on “I”.
2 types of communication
I learned recently that there are essentially two types of communication: Jeff Bezos, the founder of Amazon, asks his executives to prepare a 6-page memo prior to meetings so they are forced to think about what they want to say. He recognises that this work is hard for the person doing the work but easy… Continue reading 2 types of communication
Self-awareness-a valuable skill in self-management
Being aware of your strengths and weaknesses is vital if you are concerned about being a good manager. For you need to be able to manage yourself first before you can manage others. And to manage yourself you need to be able to identify your strengths and weaknesses. This will allow you to double down… Continue reading Self-awareness-a valuable skill in self-management
Amateur or professional?
I read a piece at the weekend in which the difference between being an amateur and professional was explained. An amateur loves practicing, working without pressure, and then suffers when he or she has to perform in the crucible. A professional suffers when she practices, and then enjoys going into the metaphorical battle, whether that… Continue reading Amateur or professional?
Learning to say “no”
After years of hustling and grinding in a wide range of businesses I am now in the enviable position of being able to turn away work. In fact, it is in my own interest, I believe, to say “no” and turn away work. Not out of arrogance or laziness or indolence or any other reason,… Continue reading Learning to say “no”
Making better videos
I spent a good bit of time at the weekend working on a video. It is a vlog type video covering the three days we have recently spent in the city of Istanbul. In the overall context of my business or my YouTube channel it is a video that will not move the needle. It… Continue reading Making better videos
Habits need to be kept under constant review-“what’s it for?”
I am a great advocate and proponent for the power of habit. I have significant personal experience of how habit can help and harm in the course of a person’s life. For example, the bad habit I had of smoking a great deal of strong cigarettes on a daily basis for many years. And the… Continue reading Habits need to be kept under constant review-“what’s it for?”
Developing the vital skill of saying no
Steve Jobs, I believe it was, who pointed out the necessity of being able to say ‘no’ to requests as a vital tool in your ability to get things done and work efficiently. There are almost certainly many more individuals who have made the same observation. You can be a busy fool and we all,… Continue reading Developing the vital skill of saying no